Find contentment by helping, not by just craving it for yourself

Getting more from wanting less

The secret to success and contentment is to look beyond our selves and provide value to the world. This is not a new concept. We often hear about the value of ‘giving back’, helping others or transcending the ego to see the benefit, or purpose, of our existence to serve others. It’s a logical step beyond personal success and contentment and goes a long way to answering the question of ‘What’s next?’

Giving back does not mean giving up or giving everything away. Neither is it an apology for success. As a logical extension of success, helping others provides a level of personal satisfaction that underlines our own achievements. So there is something in it for us whether we want to admit it or not.

We’re selfish by nature. And we like to have stuff. That’s because our primary point of reference of the world is ourselves. If we can step away from the delusion that it’s ‘all about me’ and manage to see things from other peoples’ perspectives, our view of the world, and our relationship to it, changes dramatically.

By understanding another person’s view, we broaden our own. In doing so, we become aware of not only our own actions, but the consequences of those actions. Understanding both action and consequence can lead us to strengthen our sense of responsibility because nothing is then assumed and we are forced to consider all sides of a situation.

This leads us from ‘me’ to ‘we’, which allows us to help others, which ultimately provides us with a much higher level of satisfaction and personal reward.  People like us more, collectively we achieve more and we feel contentment.  Paradoxically, the very contentment we were searching for when looking out for only ourselves.

 

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