Archive for June, 2012

Try before you buy – visualising your success

June 25, 2012

Can you experience your dreams?

 

I have spoken about creative visualisation in previous posts but have now found a great and fun way to take this up a notch. And that’s to try before you buy.

Depending on your goals this approach may not always be possible but, for many of us, experiencing what we want can be a great way to build the energy required to get there. If your goal is a new BMW then see if you can take one for a test drive or hire one for a weekend. If you want a fabulous holiday house overlooking the ocean then rent one for a week and really live the experience. How does it make you feel?

Sometimes role-playing can make it all feel real. I was fortunate to be invited to speak at a conference at a beautiful resort on Hamilton Island on Queensland’s Great Barrier Reefrecently. And my hosts were kind enough to offer me an additional day to spend in this $1000-a-night resort.

It was fantastic: I sailed in the morning, lay around the pool sipping fresh juice, had a delicious lunch on the balcony of my villa and enjoyed an hour long massage. I was totally relaxed and spent the rest of the day doing something I love: writing.

To me this was a perfect day. I did what I wanted, when I wanted, enjoyed a beautiful luxury experience and then had the bonus of doing what I love while feeling totally relaxed and inspired. Quite a different story to the normal busyness and clock watching that often defines my days.

I was fortunate enough to be in a position to do all of this, and it represented a level of success in what I wish to achieve in my life. It was a wonderful experience and I consumed every part of it. This is what I’d love to do, all the time, to have these choices and to be able to book in anytime I please without worrying about time or cost.

I lived the day pretending or  ‘visualising’ myself as a successful professional writer, able to make these choices without concern or worry about how I could afford to pay  or what was going on back in the ‘real world’.

Now I’ve experienced a slice of it, my vision and passion to achieve this lifestyle is stronger. I can now feel, smell, taste, remember and enjoy it, and so the picture of my ideal life has sharpened and my clarity has risen. Right now I’m thankful for the opportunity, and my subconscious is finding a way to make this happen all the time – to have the entire cake.

When was the last time you had a perfect day? And what are you doing to give yourself the chance to have one?

 

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Creative visualisation

June 18, 2012

What drives your success?

Most of us have heard of creative visualisation and how it can be used to assist us in achieving our goals. The idea behind this is that thoughts are creative and what you focus on is what you attract.

This is also the premise behind the law of attraction: using your mind (imagination) to change your beliefs, or programed expectations, by vividly seeing and feeling yourself achieving your goals. If you can create it in your mind and create energy and belief around it, then your subconscious will work to create it in the physical world for you.

There are many versions of this, from ‘manifesting your dreams’, ‘all things start as thought’, ‘beginning with the end in mind’, ‘believing to achieve’ and ‘positive self-belief’, right through to having your prayers answered.

The easiest way to understand this concept is to think about highly successful athletes and their strategies for maximising potential. They visualise how they will run a race and see it in their mind first. They set their desired outcomes and ‘see’ themselves achieving that. They see themselves winning and the wonderful feeling that brings.

We freely accept this as a proven method in sport, but when asked to apply it to our business and personal lives it suddenly takes on mythical or spiritual properties for many people who otherwise dismiss it as ‘mumbo-jumbo’. Is success and achievement not consistent across all endeavours?

Now, right now, pay attention to the thoughts and images that come into your mind. Do you think more about success or failure, happiness or unhappiness, winning or losing? Your predominant thoughts are what you create and your key to success or failure.

Henry Ford summed it up well:

‘If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.’

If all things are created twice, first in your mind then in your reality, how can anything great be achieved if you consider the negative most of the time?

The stronger the feelings and emotions that are associated with your thoughts and mental images, the stronger their impact on your life. These thoughts and mental images are the key to success or failure, according to whether they are positive or negative. They also act as a lens through which you see and interpret the world and how you act and react.

So are you predominantly a positive or negative person? How is that affecting your life? We’ll explore this topic more in our next post.

Stop procrastinating

June 11, 2012

‘Action’ is not always the easiest path to follow

The best time to stop procrastinating is now!

For the final post on the topic we review action plans so you can make a start … today!

Start by making a list of the important things that you have put off, the calls you should’ve made, the writing you should ‘ve done, the exercise plan you should’ve started, the education program you want to do, the list of books you want to read and the things you want to do with your family.

It may be a long list, but that’s OK, remember you can’t do everything at once; read the list of reasons we procrastinate and see if any of those affect the items on your list.  Have a go at prioritising the list. If you have quite a few items perhaps put an A, B or C next to them. ‘A’ is the most important.

The ‘A’s tend to be the biggest and most difficult tasks and carry with them the most baggage. If they didn’t, there would be a fair chance you would have already done them. Now select an item from each part of your list. If your ‘A’ list contains all the big ones perhaps select one from here and easier ones from B and C.

It’s also a good idea to select items from different parts of your life. You may have: start a part-time business at home to create a $5,000 per month passive income stream (A); take the family on a holiday (B); and lose 5 kg and get fitter (C). That’s a business, family and health mix.

You could also select career – work towards a promotion by doing further education, sport – start playing tennis again one evening per week, personal achievement/social – start a breakfast club to meet monthly,  financial – start a savings and investment plan, or any other area that’s important to you. I believe that three is the right number but you may choose to focus only on one depending on your circumstances.

Now, right now today, do one single thing for each of your three choices. Be happy to start small. Spend 10 minutes researching your business idea on the internet and make half a page of notes. Talk to your family about where they would like to go on a holiday or visit a travel agent to get some brochures. Put out that cigarette and walk to the end of the street and back. Even better, walk to the travel agent while thinking about your options for starting a business!

Now you’ve made a start in three important areas of your life. You’ve overcome your procrastination and created some momentum, and now you need to keep it going and follow through. Remember: procrastination can hit at any time on the journey so you need to be strong and keep on moving. Don’t try to do it all at once. Progress is good so allow yourself to feel happy that you’re on your way.

Internalising procrastination

June 5, 2012

Sometimes we must take action or we’ll get slammed!

In this second last post in this series, we look at the internal factors that can add to the mayhem and cause us to procrastinate. Sometimes the reasons for procrastination can stem from our own fears and doubts. Here’s five ways to complete the list of the top ten reasons for procrastination that we started in the last post.

Confusion. People procrastinate because they’re unsure what to do, how to start or where to look for help. They feel overwhelmed by the size or complexity of the task so they delay and hope it will somehow get easier or someone will assist them. Confusion leads to an inability to see the forest for trees. Approaching deadlines intensify the anxiety.

Perfectionism. People will delay performing a task until they believe they can do it perfectly. They often take on many tasks at once without finishing anything. They can’t ever get it all perfect and if they don’t finish they can’t be criticised for failing. It’s always a work in progress.

Boredom. This is the way a person reacts to having to do something they consider monotonous, uninteresting, forced upon them or of little benefit. Bored people take little interest in what they’re doing and become weary and dissatisfied.

Anxiety and fear. Anxious people can be confused about reality and their ability to deal with it. They get anxious about the consequences of their actions, usually about the chance of criticism or being seen as a failure, so they procrastinate.  The longer they put things off the greater the anxiety this creates because they know the task must be done. Some will face their fear and others will attempt to escape in the hope that it will go away or someone else will attend to it.

Fatigue. Physical and metal fatigue is a major cause of procrastination. Sometimes people will have the desire to complete a task but don’tbecause they lack the energy or mental space to do so. Getting home after a full day’s work to launch into establishing a part-time business, exercising or studying can be a daunting task. Sometimes you may need to create the space in your life or attempt to do fewer things so you can approach them with a clear and focused mind.

This is not a definitive list by any means. There is a common theme of failing to take action for fear of the consequences and how that will make you feel or be seen by others. Sometimes you may not have the physical or mental skills to achieve the results you desire. Perhaps you’ve set the bar too high so no amount of effort or determination will get you there. If you think this may be the case, perhaps you need to reassess your goals and set smaller steps of achievement that you can learn from and celebrate along the way.