Archive for July, 2012

Be careful what you wish for

July 25, 2012

Enjoying today

We spend so much time trying to set up our lives to provide our future selves with the things that we think we’ll want, that we miss out on moments we should enjoy today. When we get ‘there’ we find ourselves disappointed and wanting more, even if our past selves delivered what we promised.

What we do get are things we never thought we wanted. We feel happy but somehow unfulfilled. We now want more for our next future self. Someday we’ll be satisfied and someday we’ll enjoy life, whenever that will be.

As teenagers we may have hated the thought of ending up as boring adults. We wanted to live the fast, self-indulgent life forever. When we became boring adults, those ordinary things like buying a house and having children were milestones more meaningful than our teenage selves could have imagined.

Today is a transition zone to tomorrow, where we’ll be satisfied and happy.

We can have anything except extra time.

What are you wishing for?

More importantly, what action are you taking?


With a little help from my friends …

July 15, 2012

With a lot of help from my friends …

In my last post I gave you what is, in my opinion, the formula for success. I also made the point that no one said it would be easy, and it isn’t. What I can tell you from my own experience is that it’s worth it and the benefits, ultimately, far outweigh the cost. The energy and time you invest is the currency exchanged for the satisfaction of achieving your personal version of success.

As much as we’d all love to win the lottery or have a distant relative leave us a fortune, changing our lives for the better, there’s an unsurpassed feeling of satisfaction and pride when we achieve something of significance for ourselves.

This doesn’t mean, however, that we have to do it all by ourselves. We would be foolish not to use the resources, contacts, hard work and progress we’ve built up over our lifetime. Take assistance where it makes sense, and in turn openly help others with the experience you’ve gained. This is the law of reciprocity and is a wonderful way to supercharge your success and satisfaction – we’ll discuss it in detail in a later post.

For now, here’s an example to show you why it’s smart to accept help. If you’ve been to university, college, trade school or completed any form of study, you know how good it feels to gain a qualification or accreditation and excitedly look to the benefit this can provide in future.

You feel a great sense of satisfaction because you have achieved something worthwhile. It took time and effort and, without doubt, required work when there were events you may have missed or things you’d rather have been doing. Some call this sacrifice, but I prefer to look at it as prioritising your life for success. If someone handed you an ‘honorary qualification’ I doubt it would feel as satisfying.

When you study, you set a goal (a qualification) and work toward it. Generally, the goal is broken down into distinct and achievable steps – a series of subjects or units for example. If you happen to fail at one step, usually you can try it again, without the need to start over. These are progressive short-term goals toward the final achievement of your ultimate goal.

But even further, with each of your subjects you take lectures or classes. This is the learning process, also a fundamental requirement of success. You didn’t turn up on the first day thinking that you knew it all and could do it by yourself. You receive help and guidance from your teachers, who help you and prepare you to succeed. If you get stuck you can ask for assistance; teachers won’t do it for you, but can point you in the right direction.

In martial arts the journey to black belt is made up by a predetermined number of steps (belts) to get there. In music you can sit exams that demonstrate your growing mastery. As a parent, you guide your child through the steps of life and into adulthood. In business you move up the ladder of increasingly difficult and demanding roles with increasing levels of authority and accountability. At each step you have teachers, mentors and friends. Use them.

Life’s a journey. Enjoy it, and don’t be afraid to ask for help along the way.

Applying the laws of success

July 9, 2012


Where will you find your yellow jersey?


In our last few posts we discussed how, through action and clarity of thought, we’re able to channel universal energy to create our goals and desires into reality. When we accept that we do this every day in the normal process of our lives, it’s not such a big leap to believe we can also achieve the same results for those things we currently feel are out of our grasp.

In this series of posts I will break down the laws of success to their most basic and easy to understand components. This will demystify the process and show you how to apply the laws of success to your life. These principles are not new and have been proven time and again. Many people are just not prepared to believe that it’s possible or take the necessary action.

At seminars and in books we’re told to ‘dream big’ and ‘go for it’. That’s good advice but it misses one key element: belief. If you don’t believe you can achieve something then you’re prone to give up or only provide a mediocre level of effort. More often than not you will fail, which in turn reinforces your belief that ‘I can’t do it’ or ‘It’s too hard’ or, worse, ‘I’m not worthy or good enough’.

I’ve written many times about the requirement for taking action and demonstrating persistence toward a challenging but achievable goal. The laws of success aren’t magic, so we can’t ‘manifest our desires’ out of thin air without taking action to achieve them. So many people are disappointed when success doesn’t immediately come their way.

Let’s look at this in another way with an example that many of us can relate to.

If you want to lose weight and get healthy you have to exercise, and watch your diet. If you say ‘I wish I could lose weight’ and continue to do the same things then you’ll get the same result. The basic equation for weight loss is energy in, energy out. If you eat healthy foods, and exercise to burn more calories than you consume, you will lose weight. It’s a simple formula but, as many of us know, often difficult to achieve. There are many distractions, excuses and roadblocks that get in the way.

Sometimes we may not do everything we should. We sleep in that extra 30 minutes and miss our morning walk, or can’t resist that slice of cake when having coffee with friends. There’s a trade-off here between short-term satisfaction and a longer term benefit, and keeping focused on the big picture can be difficult. That doesn’t mean we’ve failed. We may be annoyed at ourselves, but those that are ultimately successful overcome these setbacks and keep going.

Achieving success is exactly the same. You create an idea in your mind (energy in) and take action (energy out) to manifest (create) your desires (goal) in the physical world (result).

For both weight loss and success there are a couple of important points. You must set a goal that’s reasonable and you believe you can achieve. Second, it takes determination and hard work; if you don’t take action you can’t possibly expect to get results. Third, it takes time; you can’t decide to lose 10 kg and realistically hope to do so by the end of the week. Finally, you need to make your new actions a way of life, a permanent change for the better, or you will quickly find yourself back where you began.

Now you have it, the formula for success; no one said it would be easy. In our next posts I will help you to make this a reality.

The law of attraction is the law of success

July 2, 2012

Prosperity leads to success

Many people want to find the ‘secret’ to success.

And be handed strategies for fast-tracking the achievement of their dreams.

Our reality is that nothing is given or achieved without the application of energy to make it happen.

That means there’s no wishing or affirming your way to prosperity without belief and action. Rather, this is how it works: think it, feel it, see it, believe it, do it, create it and receive it.

You can achieve almost anything you set your mind to when you believe in yourself, break down your goal into manageable steps, take action, notice what’s working and what’s not, modify your approach based on feedback and results, and keep trying.

That isn’t always easy. As soon as you dare to dream your ideal outcome, one that’s a stretch on your current position, you’ll inevitably experience doubts and fears. That’s normal and dealing with it is the key that unlocks you from your limiting beliefs.

Everything is energy and abundance is drawn to you when you create an attraction through the application of that energy.

The world is set for us to enjoy abundance and there’s enough for everyone. Over the centuries many forces have sought to seek control of people by denying them the freedom to choose their own path to success. This has led to an acceptance of lack and a view held by many that struggling and poverty is in some way noble and seeking material abundance is wrong.

That has effectively shut the door to success for many and now it’s time to act in a way that is for the universal good of all.