Happiness and success

Happiness and success

Is it possible that average can be the new successful?

Society pushes us towards average. A pass mark is enough to get through, where are you on the bell curve, how do you compare to others? You don’t have to try too hard, every child wins a prize, near enough is good enough in our sanitised world that rewards underachievement.

If we target average we will only ever achieve average. We define happiness in relation to success but have we set success at average or something more challenging? Can mediocrity really make us happy?

So we’re told that average is OK. Then we’re taught to focus on the negative rather than the positive. The habit of focusing on the negative pervades society. Bad news sells. We take notice of it, the news bulletins are full of it, gossip is based on it, and many people seek the attention that tragedy provides.

The point is, what we spend our time and mental energy effort focusing on can become our reality. And society pushes us towards average and mediocrity. We can reject that and push ourselves towards success. What does that look like?
The fact that we need to push ourselves towards success indicates that it’s not our natural state, so it requires effort to break free and seek something more.

We can collect degrees, jump at career opportunities and ‘network’ the right people to get ahead. We can stay busy multitasking our way through a checklist of carefully scripted career building experiences, often at the expense of real experiences. We can be paralysed by the tyranny of expectation we place on ourselves. All of this is playing society’s game, staying busy striving for a sanitised version of success.

We might learn how to get along in the world but miss the one real lesson; how to find meaning and happiness in our lives.
Ironically we sacrifice happiness for this version of success, which ultimately prevents us achieving the very goals we had defined as success: to be happy, content and free.


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2 Responses to “Veritas”

  1. paulhassing Says:

    Hear hear, WLB2! When you’re happy, success and failure are meaningless constructs pursued by other people whose opinions count for naught. While the removal of these two terms might thin your future content, I’d MUCH rather read about happiness than success and failure any day. Kind regards, P. 🙂

  2. WorkLifeBankBalance Says:

    Thanks for the input Paul, I will do.

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