Let’s do more of the things that make us happy

What makes you happy?

What makes you happy?

If you want to be happy, do more of the things that make you happy. Here are five tips to help you along the way.

Happiness lies in the journey

Seeking happiness for its own sake rarely works. Action toward significant goals makes us happy. While there’s a place for taking it easy, watching a movie and eating cake, easy pleasures will never excite us the way mastering a new skill or building something from scratch will.

And it’s not crossing the finish line that’s most rewarding; it’s anticipating achieving your goal. Working hard toward a goal, and making progress to the point of expecting a goal to be achieved, doesn’t just activate positive feelings, it provides focus and concentration, which can suppress negative emotions.

If you’re feeling depressed or worried, throw yourself into something you enjoy; it lifts your mood and provides a sense of satisfaction.

Money does buy happiness – to a point

Money does buy happiness, but only up to the point where it enables you to live comfortably. Beyond that, more cash doesn’t boost your well-being. But generosity brings a strong sense of satisfaction, so striking it rich could underwrite your happiness—if you were to use it to help and benefit others.

Happiness is good friends

To live a happy life, make strong personal relationships a priority. Friends are an excellent happiness tonic; they can be part confidant, psychologist, personal motivator, cheer squad and objective sounding board. Mostly they’re just great to be around, make us laugh and leave us feeling better for the experience. Good relationships are buffers against life’s inevitable speed bumps and setbacks.

Happiness is a personal value statement

If you aren’t living according to your values, you won’t be happy, no matter how much you’re achieving.

Some people aren’t sure what their values are. If you’re one of them, consider this question: Imagine you had the approval and support of everyone you know and had no financial constraints for the rest of your life. What would you then choose to do with your life?

Once you’ve answered, you can start taking steps toward your ideal vision of yourself. Remember it’s not necessarily achieving it now that will make you happy, it’s the confidence that you’re achieving something worthwhile and enjoying the journey. After all, the state of happiness is not really a state at all; it’s an ongoing personal experiment.

Happiness is relative

Whether or not we’re keeping up with the Joneses affects how happy we are. Some are more obsessed with status than others, but most are aware of how they’re doing in life relative to those around them. Comparison may be natural, but not always constructive, leading to status anxiety.

Happiness comes when we strive to achieve our goals for our reasons. Not to do things just because our friends, neighbours or advertising tell us to. We can be happy for other people’s success, and appreciate their choices, while following our own path.

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2 Responses to “Let’s do more of the things that make us happy”

  1. Chris van der Pol Says:

    Wow! This is great stuff. Wise words. Thanks for sharing!

  2. WorkLifeBankBalance Says:

    Thanks Chris, I’m pleased you enjoyed it. I hear you are going to start blogging soon, that will be great and I’m looking forward to it.

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