Archive for April, 2014

Winner winner chicken dinner

April 23, 2014
Winners are grinners!

Winners are grinners!

Have you noticed how much more money is on offer these days from the various lotteries? When I was young it was several thousand, then hundred thousand and now millions. In the US the numbers are staggering, topping the hundreds of millions.

Most of us daydream about what we would do if we won ‘the big one’. What we would buy, where we would go, if we would give up work and what the good life would feel like. It’s a great fantasy, but whether you buy a ticket or not, it’s worth asking yourself what you actually would do if you had those resources.

Forget about all that money ruining your life, (yeah, sure) or the fact that you’re more likely to be crushed to death by a vending machine, struck by lightning or have a hit record than you are of winning the lottery. What if you did win? What if someone handed you that cheque? What would you do?

Even if you succumb to the temptation to travel first class around the world and buy a bunch of extremely expensive things, you’ll still be faced with the question, eventually, of what to do with the rest. You’ll have to decide whether you merely want to do well for yourself, or whether you actually want to make a difference in the world.

If you want to make a difference in the world, doing so isn’t lottery dependent. In fact, whatever your life’s purpose, it’s not lottery dependent. Whatever difference you can decisively make with $100 million, you can incrementally make with just a hundred dollars, or a thousand.

Unless you’re seriously worried about being crushed by a vending machine, then you shouldn’t fantasise too much over winning the lottery.

Instead, think about the resources you do have, and the real difference you can make today.

Does desire drive happiness?

April 11, 2014
What is our driver of happiness?

What is our driver of happiness?

Desire is the crucible that forges character because it creates conflict and overcoming that conflict leads to fulfilment and happiness.

If we want nothing, then nothing stands in our way. Desire puts our lives in motion. There may be no more important questions to ask of ourselves than what do we want from life? And have we achieved it? If not, why not? If so, what’s next?

It’s normal for us to desire what we don’t have. But desires need to be focused. If we have too many desires it’s difficult to pursue any one of them with conviction or dedication.

We need to learn to disregard the desire for unnecessary possessions or distracting experiences. This is not always easy. When we focus on only a few desires and work towards them, desires that are worthy of serious commitment, we’ll be happier and feel a sense of achievement.

The process of understanding what really matters will make us more committed and persistent. When confronted with new and overwhelming obstacles, in pursuit of something we can’t live without, we’re forced to change, adapt and look deeper into ourselves for some insight, passion or strength that will give us the resolve to keep going.

The inevitable consequence of this journey is conflict, both internal and external. No matter what change you want to make in your life there will be easier, more comfortable options that offer faster ‘results’. And no matter which direction you’re headed, someone won’t want you going there.

Focus your desires on what matters most, then put yourself in motion. Yes, there will be conflict. But there will be steady progress and enduring satisfaction as well.