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It is possible!

January 24, 2012

It begins with possibility

Do you believe that your dreams are possible? I’m not asking if they are easy, fun or require a significant investment in time and effort; do you believe that what you want is possible?

I’m not suggesting that you think small – far from it. Take your dream, make it real in your mind, break it down to manageable tasks and take action. Set a clear path forward, and believe you can achieve. Believing in yourself and having the courage to dream big is often the most difficult step.

Society does not reward free thought. Imagination is considered an important part of childhood, but beyond that we’re expected to fall into line with everyone else. Imagination is discouraged and to say that someone is a dreamer infers that they are unrealistic and should be getting on with life, like everyone else.

As soon as you stray outside the norm people feel it’s their mission to bring you back to the fold; part out of concern for your welfare and part through fear and jealousy that you may just achieve something great.

Yet we celebrate those successful free thinkers who achieve great things. We buy books about them and hold them up as icons for us follow. It is only through free thought that we make progress.

Look around your world and see how much of what you own didn’t exist 20 years ago – internet mobile phones, iPods, digital cameras, car safety features, efficient energy use, medications and procedures to extend life … the list goes on and on.

All of these started with a dream, an idea that at some point was considered impossible.

Think about that when you’re setting your goals. What is possible for you?

As Henry David Thoreau said:

Of course you need to build castles in the air.

That is where they should be.

Then you put the foundations under them.


(C) WorkLifeBankBalance 2012


Believe the dream; ride the wave

January 17, 2012



Believe the dream ...and live it


Do you believe that your dreams are possible?

Belief is important. When I’m surfing, if I see a larger than average wave coming I have two choices: go for it in the knowledge that I can get the ride of my life or float over the top of it before it breaks.

Do I have the skill to ride this wave? – yes! If I see it as an opportunity for the best ride of the day I will paddle strongly, jump up and take control.

But if I start instead with negative self-talk – ‘That’s really big, I can’t make that, am I in the wrong position, will it break before I catch it, should I let it pass, will I get wiped out?’ – then all I get is hesitation and trepidation.

So I reluctantly and tentatively paddle, feeling nervous. And what happens? I get wiped out. I catch the wave too late; I lack confidence, and quickly fall.

In other words, I realise my very fears. Because with that attitude and hesitation, I could never succeed. And the result also reinforces my self-belief: ‘See, I knew you couldn’t make that wave!’

Life is like the ocean. A series of sets rolling, waves on offer for you to catch. You can play it safe and sit out the back and allow each wave to gently pass beneath you. Just a gentle lift so you know it’s there and gone forever. You’re in no danger and it’s perfectly acceptable to play it safe.

However, if you want to enjoy the great rides life has to offer you have to commit, turn your board toward the shore and paddle hard, even if you’re not sure you’ll make it.,until you feel the board lift and you are effortlessly propelled towards the shore using the energy of the wave to push you along.

Surfing is like life. It requires commitment, action and a big effort at the start. But once you get going the momentum of the wave pushes you forward and you are free to enjoy the ride. As the shore approaches and you have achieved all you can, you kick off the back and paddle out for the next one.

You can’t take every wave; that’s impossible, in the same way that you can’t take every opportunity that life provides you. You can catch one wave in each set though, each new challenge rolling in. And you don’t have to catch the first in the set … you can watch, wait and learn … but you should go for one. And, you know, a bigger set will roll along soon enough too. Will you take one then?

If you fail to commit to any wave you’ll be constantly paddling just to stay out there, getting nowhere. You may tire and end up drifting aimlessly. Sometimes you’ll even get caught in the impact zone, and get wiped out regardless.

Don’t just float along allowing the opportunities to pass. In the evening, the waves fade and the sun goes down. Don’t allow that to happen without having a single ride.

Beating the doubts and fears

January 13, 2012

You will move past self doubt!

To be successful we are told that we must ‘believe’. But what does that really mean; to believe in yourself perhaps? Or in some higher universal power that provides from a never-ending spring of prosperity?

Our reality is that nothing is given or achieved without the application of energy to make it happen.

That means there’s no wishing or affirming your way to prosperity without belief and action. Rather, this is how it works: think it, feel it, see it, believe it, do it, create it and receive it. Therefore belief is about believing in yourself to the level that you can take action with a positive mindset.

That, as we have seen, isn’t always easy. As soon as you dare to dream your ideal outcome, one that’s a stretch on your current position, you’ll inevitably experience doubts and fears. That’s normal and dealing with these this is the key that unlocks your comfort zone.

Write down your goal and that voice in your head will say ‘You can’t do that’-Self doubt is normal when we seek change, but we need to drag ourselves from our comfort zone to create momentum.

For most things, the consequences of failure are at worst feeling embarrassed that you couldn’t meet your goal or, at best, learning some important lessons to refine your strategy so that you can try again.

Can you make the consequences of not trying worse than not achieving what you desire?.  Sometimes this comes from willpower and other times from hitting rock bottom – a feeling of, ‘I can’t stand myself any longer, and I just have to change!’

To beat your doubts and fears, just commit to a small change and then and allow yourself the space to re-evaluate from there. Take action, even if you fail at first, and soon you will see enough signs to convince yourself that you are on the right track and that it is possible to create the life you desire.

Making it work for you!

December 19, 2011

A plan gets you to the finishing line

The next step in our journey is to take your action plans and sort the pages by importance. One of your goals may be to lose weight and get fit so your action plan may look something like this:

Goal – To lose 5 kg in 12 weeks and increase my fitness level.

– I will commit 30 minutes per day to walk, 5 days per week

– Go for an hour bike ride with the kids on the weekend

– Purchase good quality training shoes

– Load my iPod with inspirational music

– Work out routes that are 1, 3 and 5 km in length

– Reduce my food intake by cutting out junk food except on Saturdays (my free day)

– Cut down on alcohol to only 2 glasses of wine per week

– No carbs after 2.00 pm

– Weigh myself twice a week and record in my journal

The goal is specific and measurable and provides a time frame. The actions are the steps to getting there. Looking at these actions you will see that each is achievable and helps to work towards your goal. Some are once offs to get you going, some are ongoing and others may be sequential.

 In this example you will start with buying the shoes and loading your iPod. Next you will go for a walk, which may just be around the block the first time, building over time to longer distances. You start watching your food and alcohol intake and record your progress in your journal.

You‘re on your way to achieving your goal and manifesting the result you want. Deadlines are important to keep you focused on the outcome. If you have no end point you are less likely to make as much progress. Don’t try to do too much at once. If you make it too difficult from the start you will have a higher probability of quitting. Make a start – it’s more than you’re doing now – and enjoy the feeling of achievement.

This creates momentum and your goal moves from being a nice idea to progressing towards reality. Even better, when you stick at your behaviour it becomes a positive habit that you achieve easily, without battling with yourself each time.

This is an easy example, one that many of us can relate to, and one that shows how a set number of actions makes it easier to achieve an outcome. Remember to only choose six to eight ongoing actions. Any more and you will find the task too daunting. This example has three initial activities and six ongoing ones.

This process works for starting a business, writing a book, building a tree house or enrolling and attending a course; any goal that you set yourself.  Don’t overload yourself trying to achieve five goals at the same time. Perhaps select one business and one health goal that don’t conflict.

Manifesting is simply the process of turning an idea into reality. Nothing magical here, it’s a common sense approach to creating a plan and following it. This doesn’t mean it will always be easy. You may miss some of your deadlines but that’s OK – whatever happens you will be better off than when you started, and you can reassess and adjust your actions and targets as you go. The hardest part is starting, so get the motion in your emotion and get started today!

How do you get what you want?

December 12, 2011

Getting what you want - it's your move!

My last post explored how creating a success mindset allows your subconscious to help form your reality. We also discussed why believing in yourself is so important.

This is an important foundation, but in reality you can’t simply wish something into existence. Deciding what you want, setting a plan, beating procrastination, being prepared to try, dealing with failure and trying again is what makes it happen.

Unfortunately this is where many people get it wrong. Creating the correct mindset is vital but so is action. Understanding that there is no traction without action is the second part of the equation. Positive affirmations, vision statements and creating an emotional bond to your desires are not enough.

Take your list of goals and write a one-page plan for each; a plan on how you’re going to achieve that goal. This is a list of action steps that you take sequentially to reach your objective.

The great benefit in doing so is to break your task down into individual activities which are smaller, achievable and can be done within a specific time frame. And then you start. When you have a plan you create an intention and that leads to action, which in turn creates progress.

Review your plan after completing each step; it will change as you learn, so don’t be afraid to make adjustments and improve your program. Grab your diary and write an action step in for a specific day. Hold yourself accountable. Success is the result of many small steps moving towards a clearly defined goal.

When you start, interesting things happen. First you’ll experience a wonderful sense of achievement and satisfaction.

Second you’ll realise the value in your history. When you take action you’ll find your experiences, even those you thought were bad or a waste of time, will help you. You’ll start to understand the wisdom of your journey thus far, and how this accumulated knowledge can help you to reach your goals.

This is a great reward of life. We’re here to grow, achieve and to reach our full potential. We’re far greater than we ever give ourselves credit for. The human spirit is boundless. Most of us have barely begun to understand what we’re capable of. So get to your action list and make it count!


Dreams to reality

December 6, 2011

Heading off on your journey to success!

In this series we are following the journey of turning your dreams into reality. Many people are surprised to learn that there’s a specific process to make this happen and the effort required is minimal when compared to the results.

This post is a slight diversion, but valuable to explain the process and to provide some grounding and understanding on what we are doing, as well as debunking some of the hype.

Dreams to reality. Perhaps ‘dreams’ is not the right word, as that can connote not being ‘real’. In this context, ‘dreams’ means ‘wants, desires, goals, plans, outcomes’; any word that means working towards something you want badly enough to create a strong emotional link.

You may have heard the expression ‘I will believe it when I see it’ or ‘seeing is believing’. When you work to manifest your dreams this becomes the opposite – ‘I will see it when I believe it’. That requires some faith and self-belief, which is harder than it sounds because it often runs against our lifetime mental programming.

Faith means believing in yourself and your ability to create something. Everything is created twice; first in your mind and then in reality. Let’s look at a fun example to see how it works, because it works for everything.

Lunchtime, you feel hungry and decide you want a sandwich so you ‘visualise’ what you want. You see it in your mind; white bread, chicken, tomato, lettuce and mayonnaise. You go into the kitchen and make it or walk into a shop and buy it.

Easy, because you never doubted your ability to manifest a chicken sandwich. You’ve done it before and it doesn’t require much mental energy. This may seem like a silly example but when we talk about manifesting, attracting abundance, visualising, self-belief, affirmations, putting it out to the universe and the like, this can all sound ‘new agey’ and easy to dismiss out of hand. But if you can understand that you’re turning dreams into reality every day, then the leap to the bigger picture is not as difficult.

I’ve read experts and gurus that make this process out to be mystical, bordering on a religious experience, when it’s simply a common sense process that can be followed. I believe in the power of our subconscious and its ability to help us find a way. Part of this is our ‘self-talk’ – if we tell ourselves ‘I’m hopeless, things never work out for me and I won’t ever achieve this’ then that’s what our subconscious works towards. We ask for it. We get it. It’s a simple process.

Positive self-talk and belief are important when realistically applied to our life and our goals. Have you noticed that successful people are usually positive and energetic? Do you think they became that way because they are successful, or being that way led to their success?

Henry Ford said, ‘Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.’  That sums it up perfectly.

In the next post, we’ll learn the next step in the process of achieving what you desire!

Making your dreams feel real

November 28, 2011

                                                            From dreams to reality …

In the last post I challenged you to write down what your ideal life looks like in five years. I hope you enjoyed the process. Now it’s time to take the next step.

This is to look at what you’ve written and find within it a list of goals. Without considering ‘How I will achieve these’ just yet, highlight the statements on your list that work as goals.

The vision of ‘I will start a business to work on timber boats, my true passion, so I can live in a beautiful old home in a small town by the ocean, have time for writing and spend more time with my children to experience the pleasure of life …’ becomes a list of specific goals:

– I’m working towards starting a boat restoration business within the next three years

– I’m starting to research, locate and will purchase an older home in Surfbeach with ocean views

– I work hard in the spring/summer season to allow me time (four months per year) to travel with my children during the holidays, and also pursue my writing. I also structure my day to be free by 4.00 pm to spend time with my children when they get home from school.

These are great goals and are aligned to what you really want in life. If you had just sat down to write goals without a vision, you may have come up with a more traditional list that didn’t reflect your true desires. The more specific and detailed your list the better, as this enables you to paint a clear mental picture of what you plan to achieve.

Goals work best when worded in the present tense and in a style that feels right to you. This allows your subconscious to accept them as real and to begin working on them for you.

As you work through your five-year vision you may find you end up with many goals, or perhaps just a few. If you have many, the next step is to prioritise these to the six most important, 10 at the most if you have a few small ones in the mix. This is important because you can’t do everything at once. If you attempt too much you will lose the clarity and focus you require.

Don’t be concerned; you can revisit these goals when you have achieved the first ones. This provides for healthy and stimulating growth and a wonderful sense of achievement for many years to come.  In our next post we’ll look at how we turn these into reality!


How do we start manifesting our dreams?

November 22, 2011

Dreams to reality

It starts the same way; we wake up one day and realise we want more out of life than we’re currently getting. It may be at one of those dreaded ‘0’ birthdays – 30, 40 or 50 – when we tell ourselves that there must be more than this. It doesn’t mean you have to be in a bad place, broke or homeless. You may have a perfectly comfortable life, but also the desire for something more; a desire to test yourself, to take the next step and to improve your circumstances.

Change requires emotional leverage … a feeling of lack or emptiness that we want to fill. Without this feeling, we stay in our comfort zone. Comfortable, sure, but unchallenged and therefore dissatisfied. The desire for more grows until we’re ready to take action. That’s the first step.

The second step is to be clear on what you want. Don’t worry about goal setting; this is much easier and more fun! Get a piece of paper or open a new file and write/type ‘My ideal life’ at the top. Then start writing how in the next five years you’ll create your perfect life.

You can image anything you like. You can have a wonderful relationship, start a successful business, enjoy time with your friends and family and have a beautiful home overlooking the ocean. You may focus on business success, a life of creativity with music and the arts, or wealth and adventure. Imagine that you have the resources and time for all of it, without limitation.

There’s no right answer, it only matters that you want these things. And you may be surprised by what you write if you let yourself go. When you dare to think about your ideal life, the life you can have if you have everything you desire, you’ll see what is really important to you. It may not be what you expect!

Try it now; write what you will be doing, who with, where and why. Have some fun and write the ideal script of your life. Then in the next post we’ll take the next step. This is success without compromise – the things that are important in your life. Go.

Getting rich – art or science?

November 17, 2011
Can you find universal success?

Have you heard about the book The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles? Written in 1910, it’s the foundation of today’s thinking around the law of attraction and our ability to ‘manifest’ our desires.

The book analyses in depth a concept of the universe, applying the principals of attraction and gratitude and being open to universal flow to receive. From this comes creating a vision and belief (sometimes through the use of affirmations) and allowing your desires to come to you.

Some believe it, others don’t, but what I believe (and know from firsthand experience) is the power of our subconscious mind to assist in realising our goals. If you want something and create a strong feeling around it you will often find that the answer to getting it will pop into your head. When we ‘sleep on it’ we provide the time for our subconscious mind to find a way.

Perhaps the law of attraction and the subconscious mind are one and the same.  And if it works for you, it doesn’t really matter what you call it..

Let’s go back to 1910 and look at the key ideas from Wattles’ book:

  • There is a universal energy from which all things are made.
  • When you form a thought, you tap into this energy, and you create that which you are thinking about.
  • Individuals have the ability to create a thought and cause the subject of the thought to be created in this field of universal energy.
  • To activate this ability, we must learn to apply our creative mind. Typically, we function with our competitive mind but to create things with thought, we need to activate our creative mind.
  • We can come into harmony with this universal energy through the act of expressing gratitude.
  • To manifest something new, hold an image of what you seek in your mind. Express gratitude to the universe for having granted this to you.
  • To achieve wealth, apply this same principle – hold a clear vision of the wealth you hope to attain. Then express gratitude that this wealth is coming to you.
  • All that you include in your mental image will come to you through the physical realm – through the process of natural ways such as trade and commerce.
  • To claim this wealth, you must be active. You must do all that you can do each day to make this vision a reality. Strive to deliver to others something of value greater than what they paid for.
  • Those who practice these instructions will get rich. The riches they receive will be in the exact proportion to the definiteness of their vision, the fixity of their purpose, the steadiness of their faith and the depth of their gratitude.

Though more than one hundred years old, these principles are just as true today as they were in Wattles’ day. Indeed, they are universal.

Try these laws of attraction, or the power of your subconscious mind (or whatever you want to call it) for yourself. You may be surprised with the results!