Posts Tagged ‘Law of attraction’

The energy flow

October 1, 2012

The flow of success

A dream is a wish without substance or restraint.

A wish is a desire without the application of energy.

A desire is a goal without a timeline.

A goal is action without commencement.

Action is success without completion.

Success is the realisation of a dream.

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Positively successful

September 10, 2012

… and be successful

Positive thinking is based on the belief that we will get what we want and by taking action we’re in the process of fulfilling our dreams, destiny, goals or success. The words are interchangeable but the destination is the same.

We’ve all heard of the term ‘self-fulfilling prophecy’; it means believing that results will come to us when we fashion our lives according to our personal beliefs. This comes with a warning; our results positive or negative depending on what we think.

To quote James Allen: Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so you shall become. Your vision is the promise of what you shall one day be; your ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil.

We can make something positive happen today when we’re prepared to open the door to the opportunities that will make us happy and lead us to fulfillment and success.

Prosperity consciousness

September 3, 2012

Unlock your limitations

When it comes to the prosperity, or lack of it, what you create is determined by your vision and the strength of your beliefs. Now that doesn’t mean idle dreams or empty wishes, but your actual vision.  It may be monetary, spiritual, physical, emotional, a sense of achievement or fulfilment.   It may be your career, sport, hobby, family or relationships. It may be big or small. It will usually be a combination and it will be unique to you.

Here’s the problem. It’s easy to be caught in the flow of life and fail to understand that we win, lose or remain where we are as a consequence of our thoughts and actions.

It’s easy to believe that ‘going with the flow’ will lead to happiness and success. That rarely happens. The flow has enough form to provide a comfortable and satisfying life; this is the structure of society that provides a safety net for those in need. We can be subdued by the warm waters and float along happily passing the time.

For some this is enough.  But many yearn for more and feel the emptiness of a nice but not exceptional life. They want more and look to society to provide it. This isn’t unexpected; we’ve been brought up to live by the majority’s rules. And when we want more this can be viewed with scorn by others who want us to be just like them, floating along, not creating any waves.

Most will say they want more but aren’t prepared to do anything about it. Strength of mind, a challenging goal, taking action and the possibility of failure are not risks some are prepared to take. So they stay in their comfort zone, and be happy when others do the same.

They will speak of luck, fortune and chance.  They will blame their history, opportunities, society, destiny or fate; anything other than taking responsibility for themselves. They will be swallowed up by the ‘system’, plodding through their daily existence, looking for someone to tell them what to do and what to think next.

To them it’s comforting to think that wealth, success, and happiness are the result of luck.  Because even though they don’t have these things and don’t expect they ever will, they take solace in the belief they never had a chance.  They‘re jealous of the lucky ones and absolve themselves of any responsibility for their own lives of quiet desperation.

By contrast, some ‘lucky’ few will break away with the determination to take the path less travelled and chase their success.

The path you choose, your action, results and consequences are up to you. What are you prepared to risk for success?

With a little help from my friends …

July 15, 2012

With a lot of help from my friends …

In my last post I gave you what is, in my opinion, the formula for success. I also made the point that no one said it would be easy, and it isn’t. What I can tell you from my own experience is that it’s worth it and the benefits, ultimately, far outweigh the cost. The energy and time you invest is the currency exchanged for the satisfaction of achieving your personal version of success.

As much as we’d all love to win the lottery or have a distant relative leave us a fortune, changing our lives for the better, there’s an unsurpassed feeling of satisfaction and pride when we achieve something of significance for ourselves.

This doesn’t mean, however, that we have to do it all by ourselves. We would be foolish not to use the resources, contacts, hard work and progress we’ve built up over our lifetime. Take assistance where it makes sense, and in turn openly help others with the experience you’ve gained. This is the law of reciprocity and is a wonderful way to supercharge your success and satisfaction – we’ll discuss it in detail in a later post.

For now, here’s an example to show you why it’s smart to accept help. If you’ve been to university, college, trade school or completed any form of study, you know how good it feels to gain a qualification or accreditation and excitedly look to the benefit this can provide in future.

You feel a great sense of satisfaction because you have achieved something worthwhile. It took time and effort and, without doubt, required work when there were events you may have missed or things you’d rather have been doing. Some call this sacrifice, but I prefer to look at it as prioritising your life for success. If someone handed you an ‘honorary qualification’ I doubt it would feel as satisfying.

When you study, you set a goal (a qualification) and work toward it. Generally, the goal is broken down into distinct and achievable steps – a series of subjects or units for example. If you happen to fail at one step, usually you can try it again, without the need to start over. These are progressive short-term goals toward the final achievement of your ultimate goal.

But even further, with each of your subjects you take lectures or classes. This is the learning process, also a fundamental requirement of success. You didn’t turn up on the first day thinking that you knew it all and could do it by yourself. You receive help and guidance from your teachers, who help you and prepare you to succeed. If you get stuck you can ask for assistance; teachers won’t do it for you, but can point you in the right direction.

In martial arts the journey to black belt is made up by a predetermined number of steps (belts) to get there. In music you can sit exams that demonstrate your growing mastery. As a parent, you guide your child through the steps of life and into adulthood. In business you move up the ladder of increasingly difficult and demanding roles with increasing levels of authority and accountability. At each step you have teachers, mentors and friends. Use them.

Life’s a journey. Enjoy it, and don’t be afraid to ask for help along the way.

Applying the laws of success

July 9, 2012

 

Where will you find your yellow jersey?

 

In our last few posts we discussed how, through action and clarity of thought, we’re able to channel universal energy to create our goals and desires into reality. When we accept that we do this every day in the normal process of our lives, it’s not such a big leap to believe we can also achieve the same results for those things we currently feel are out of our grasp.

In this series of posts I will break down the laws of success to their most basic and easy to understand components. This will demystify the process and show you how to apply the laws of success to your life. These principles are not new and have been proven time and again. Many people are just not prepared to believe that it’s possible or take the necessary action.

At seminars and in books we’re told to ‘dream big’ and ‘go for it’. That’s good advice but it misses one key element: belief. If you don’t believe you can achieve something then you’re prone to give up or only provide a mediocre level of effort. More often than not you will fail, which in turn reinforces your belief that ‘I can’t do it’ or ‘It’s too hard’ or, worse, ‘I’m not worthy or good enough’.

I’ve written many times about the requirement for taking action and demonstrating persistence toward a challenging but achievable goal. The laws of success aren’t magic, so we can’t ‘manifest our desires’ out of thin air without taking action to achieve them. So many people are disappointed when success doesn’t immediately come their way.

Let’s look at this in another way with an example that many of us can relate to.

If you want to lose weight and get healthy you have to exercise, and watch your diet. If you say ‘I wish I could lose weight’ and continue to do the same things then you’ll get the same result. The basic equation for weight loss is energy in, energy out. If you eat healthy foods, and exercise to burn more calories than you consume, you will lose weight. It’s a simple formula but, as many of us know, often difficult to achieve. There are many distractions, excuses and roadblocks that get in the way.

Sometimes we may not do everything we should. We sleep in that extra 30 minutes and miss our morning walk, or can’t resist that slice of cake when having coffee with friends. There’s a trade-off here between short-term satisfaction and a longer term benefit, and keeping focused on the big picture can be difficult. That doesn’t mean we’ve failed. We may be annoyed at ourselves, but those that are ultimately successful overcome these setbacks and keep going.

Achieving success is exactly the same. You create an idea in your mind (energy in) and take action (energy out) to manifest (create) your desires (goal) in the physical world (result).

For both weight loss and success there are a couple of important points. You must set a goal that’s reasonable and you believe you can achieve. Second, it takes determination and hard work; if you don’t take action you can’t possibly expect to get results. Third, it takes time; you can’t decide to lose 10 kg and realistically hope to do so by the end of the week. Finally, you need to make your new actions a way of life, a permanent change for the better, or you will quickly find yourself back where you began.

Now you have it, the formula for success; no one said it would be easy. In our next posts I will help you to make this a reality.

Try before you buy – visualising your success

June 25, 2012

Can you experience your dreams?

 

I have spoken about creative visualisation in previous posts but have now found a great and fun way to take this up a notch. And that’s to try before you buy.

Depending on your goals this approach may not always be possible but, for many of us, experiencing what we want can be a great way to build the energy required to get there. If your goal is a new BMW then see if you can take one for a test drive or hire one for a weekend. If you want a fabulous holiday house overlooking the ocean then rent one for a week and really live the experience. How does it make you feel?

Sometimes role-playing can make it all feel real. I was fortunate to be invited to speak at a conference at a beautiful resort on Hamilton Island on Queensland’s Great Barrier Reefrecently. And my hosts were kind enough to offer me an additional day to spend in this $1000-a-night resort.

It was fantastic: I sailed in the morning, lay around the pool sipping fresh juice, had a delicious lunch on the balcony of my villa and enjoyed an hour long massage. I was totally relaxed and spent the rest of the day doing something I love: writing.

To me this was a perfect day. I did what I wanted, when I wanted, enjoyed a beautiful luxury experience and then had the bonus of doing what I love while feeling totally relaxed and inspired. Quite a different story to the normal busyness and clock watching that often defines my days.

I was fortunate enough to be in a position to do all of this, and it represented a level of success in what I wish to achieve in my life. It was a wonderful experience and I consumed every part of it. This is what I’d love to do, all the time, to have these choices and to be able to book in anytime I please without worrying about time or cost.

I lived the day pretending or  ‘visualising’ myself as a successful professional writer, able to make these choices without concern or worry about how I could afford to pay  or what was going on back in the ‘real world’.

Now I’ve experienced a slice of it, my vision and passion to achieve this lifestyle is stronger. I can now feel, smell, taste, remember and enjoy it, and so the picture of my ideal life has sharpened and my clarity has risen. Right now I’m thankful for the opportunity, and my subconscious is finding a way to make this happen all the time – to have the entire cake.

When was the last time you had a perfect day? And what are you doing to give yourself the chance to have one?

 

Creative visualisation

June 18, 2012

What drives your success?

Most of us have heard of creative visualisation and how it can be used to assist us in achieving our goals. The idea behind this is that thoughts are creative and what you focus on is what you attract.

This is also the premise behind the law of attraction: using your mind (imagination) to change your beliefs, or programed expectations, by vividly seeing and feeling yourself achieving your goals. If you can create it in your mind and create energy and belief around it, then your subconscious will work to create it in the physical world for you.

There are many versions of this, from ‘manifesting your dreams’, ‘all things start as thought’, ‘beginning with the end in mind’, ‘believing to achieve’ and ‘positive self-belief’, right through to having your prayers answered.

The easiest way to understand this concept is to think about highly successful athletes and their strategies for maximising potential. They visualise how they will run a race and see it in their mind first. They set their desired outcomes and ‘see’ themselves achieving that. They see themselves winning and the wonderful feeling that brings.

We freely accept this as a proven method in sport, but when asked to apply it to our business and personal lives it suddenly takes on mythical or spiritual properties for many people who otherwise dismiss it as ‘mumbo-jumbo’. Is success and achievement not consistent across all endeavours?

Now, right now, pay attention to the thoughts and images that come into your mind. Do you think more about success or failure, happiness or unhappiness, winning or losing? Your predominant thoughts are what you create and your key to success or failure.

Henry Ford summed it up well:

‘If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.’

If all things are created twice, first in your mind then in your reality, how can anything great be achieved if you consider the negative most of the time?

The stronger the feelings and emotions that are associated with your thoughts and mental images, the stronger their impact on your life. These thoughts and mental images are the key to success or failure, according to whether they are positive or negative. They also act as a lens through which you see and interpret the world and how you act and react.

So are you predominantly a positive or negative person? How is that affecting your life? We’ll explore this topic more in our next post.

It’s random

February 7, 2012

My daughter’s favourite word at the moment is ‘random’. In her world, everything and everyone appears to be a ‘random’. So here are 10 random ideas of my own:

  1. Prosperity comes with a clear vision of your direction.
  2. You know the cliché ‘when one door closes, another opens’; but I think we often look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one that has opened for us.
  3. Even a happy life can’t be without a measure of darkness, and success would lose its meaning if it weren’t balanced by the occasional failure. So take all things as they come along, with patience and composure.
  4. Stop comparing what others do, where they live and how they live, how much they earn, or what job they have.
  5. If you want to feel successful, decide whose life you want to live and start creating goals you want to achieve. Don’t live to only please others.
  6. Write down what you really hate about yourself in big black letters on a piece of paper. Hold it up and look at it in the mirror. Now tear it in half, throw it on the floor and jump on it. Take it outside and set fire to it. Watch it burn and see the embers fly away.  Now it’s gone.
  7. If we want change, we can’t stay the same. Yet often we say we want to change, but we don’t. Why?
  8. Before you can change your life you need to change what’s inside you. If you focus on what’s wrong you’ll get more of that again. To make positive changes you need to think differently and feel differently. Ever notice that when you feel good everything seems to go well for you?
  9. Why does ‘fine’ never actually mean fine? Why do we say we don’t care when we do? Why do we say it doesn’t matter when it does?
  10. If yesterday was better than today, what’s in store tomorrow? Make today and every day the best you can make it.

So there’s 10 random thoughts.

The keys to success

January 31, 2012

Success requires pushing the start button

Many people want to find the ‘secret’ to success.

And be handed strategies for fast-tracking their goals.

You can achieve almost anything you set your mind to when you believe in yourself, break down your goal into manageable steps, take action, notice what’s working and what’s not, modify your approach based on feedback and results, and keep trying.

I’ve repeated these steps many times because the feedback I receive from a number of people is that it can’t be that simple. However, it is. The ‘secret’ isn’t magical, and that it’s logical and straightforward disappoints some people. 

The process is easy, but getting results is more of a challenge, which requires the right mind set and the ability to take consistent action and not give up. That’s bad news for some and opportunity for others.

The time it will take you to succeed is in direct proportion to the effort you apply. That’s the problem for many; sitting back, wishing for success and starting the day with positive affirmations is not going to get the results you want. It’s like getting to the starting line but not running the race. It’s great to get to the track but you have to run if you want to win.

Everything is energy and abundance is drawn to you when you create an attraction through action. One of my favourite saying is ‘no traction without action’. But the biggest critics of this view are the armchair variety, who expect everything to come to them without effort.

This is exactly where the law of attraction falls down for many – when they expect the Universe to provide simply by opening oneself to positive thoughts and ‘allowing it’. Again, these are key ingredients but not the entire recipe. Why? Because there’s no traction without action!

Here’s how to achieve results in the quickest time:

  1. Keep the promises you make to others and yourself.
  2. Small daily improvements are the key to long-term results.
  3. Stop being busy and start being effective; focus on the important not the urgent.
  4. Be careful who you share your dreams with – not everyone wants to see you succeed.
  5. Have likeminded friends who you can share your dreams; ones that are non-judgmental, enthusiastic and supportive, offer good advice, motivate you, and hold you to account.
  6. Leave every person you meet better than you found them.
  7. Near enough is never good enough. Success is in the last 10%.
  8. The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your thoughts.
  9. Never ‘settle’ for anything. Mediocrity is a dangerous place.
  10. Put the keys in the ignition and push start.
  11. Find out what you do that offers the greatest value to you, your business and other people. Do more of that. In business it’s called creating value.
  12. Limit your contact with the negative, naysayers and energy vampires.
  13. Disrupt or be disrupted – with change comes momentum. 
  14. Take a lesson from Zen and focus fully on where and what you’re doing. There’s power in the now.
  15. Find your balance and never neglect family.
  16. Every week, set clear actions to be completed; 3 per week is over 150 small wins a year.
  17. Make time for your dreams, don’t leave them to last when you’re tired – schedule it, commit to it and do it.
  18. Do something! Take action and have a go. Then do it again.
  19. Don’t neglect your health; are you tired and lethargic or energetic and excited?
  20. Think differently. Act accordingly.
  21. Face your fears or they become your limits.
  22. Do more than is expected.
  23. Look inside yourself and don’t allow your ego to dominate your thoughts and actions.
  24. Value your good friends – they’re one of your most important assets.
  25. Go hard, have fun, enjoy life and don’t forget to stop and enjoy your small successes.

It is possible!

January 24, 2012

It begins with possibility

Do you believe that your dreams are possible? I’m not asking if they are easy, fun or require a significant investment in time and effort; do you believe that what you want is possible?

I’m not suggesting that you think small – far from it. Take your dream, make it real in your mind, break it down to manageable tasks and take action. Set a clear path forward, and believe you can achieve. Believing in yourself and having the courage to dream big is often the most difficult step.

Society does not reward free thought. Imagination is considered an important part of childhood, but beyond that we’re expected to fall into line with everyone else. Imagination is discouraged and to say that someone is a dreamer infers that they are unrealistic and should be getting on with life, like everyone else.

As soon as you stray outside the norm people feel it’s their mission to bring you back to the fold; part out of concern for your welfare and part through fear and jealousy that you may just achieve something great.

Yet we celebrate those successful free thinkers who achieve great things. We buy books about them and hold them up as icons for us follow. It is only through free thought that we make progress.

Look around your world and see how much of what you own didn’t exist 20 years ago – internet mobile phones, iPods, digital cameras, car safety features, efficient energy use, medications and procedures to extend life … the list goes on and on.

All of these started with a dream, an idea that at some point was considered impossible.

Think about that when you’re setting your goals. What is possible for you?

As Henry David Thoreau said:

Of course you need to build castles in the air.

That is where they should be.

Then you put the foundations under them.

 

(C) WorkLifeBankBalance 2012