Posts Tagged ‘prosperity’

If we are to understand the meaning of life, who will show us the way?

September 2, 2014
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I will show you the way …

Is life’s meaning a reflection of the fundamental nature of human existence? If not, then why are we here?

Again, more questions than answers.

Fundamentally, the answer of the meaning of life must be found within each of us. Perhaps it’s different for everyone, despite our cries for the ‘cereal box’ version that nicely packages life and its meaning so we can tick it off our bucket list and move on.

Why is looking inwards so difficult? Why do we need tele-evangelists or visionaries to provide the answers?

Perhaps I can set myself up as a self-styled Guru to show you the way to enlightenment, meaning and prosperity. I can also throw in, for this month only, contentment and freedom, all for the one low, low price of$79.95, sign up now.

Or, I could show you how to reject your materialist desires for just $99.95 a month. And there’s the CD set, workbook, guided meditation program, interactive web page and study plan to show you how to find simplicity, this week only, act now …

To be a Guru I will require a robe. What colour would you suggest? I like purple but that’s too Harry Potter, and the Dalai Lama ‘owns’ red. What’s the colour of sincerity? Perhaps green. Orange certainly won’t do, and white is too difficult to keep clean. Chartreuse is nice but clashes with my aura, so perhaps mint. Perhaps it’s all just a pigment of my imagination. What about hair? Long and grey is too Charles Manson. Bald is good; that’s campaignable.

Sounds silly, right? Of course, but so many of us are desperate to find someone to show us the way and provide external validation for a journey of discovery that must, by its very nature, be highly personal. Consider this the next time someone offers you peace and fulfilment for less than the cost of a good lunch.

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Happy days … always

June 18, 2013
Sincerely happy, really!

Sincerely happy, really!

I’ve received several text messages today with the familiar, yellow smiley face. Current phones have them right there on the menu page so happiness is just a simple click away.

It’s a common addition to communication but what does it really mean? Does the sender wish me to have a happy day, are they expressing their happiness in talking to me, or is it an empty platitude in a wasteland of social compliance?

When you leave a shop the assistant will often say ‘Have a nice day’, often without even looking up. How many times do we ask ‘How are you?’ when we don’t really listen to the answer, let alone care. How could we care when the answer is often ‘Not too bad thanks’, regardless of what’s actually happening in their life at that moment? What does that mean?

How should I respond in the supermarket when the teenage checkout person asks ‘What’s on for the rest of the day?’ because someone in HR has decided that it’s a friendly and engaging question? ‘Oh, I don’t know, I was thinking about robbing the Tattersalls and going on a drug and alcohol induced frenzy resulting in a police chase along the freeway’. ‘That sounds good, have a nice day, next in line please’.

This kind of smiley ‘have-a-nice-day’ happiness is so ingrained in society that we do and say ‘happy’ things without thinking. We operate on autopilot.

Stimulus – response? Are we, as a society, a modern, happiness centric version of Pavlov’s dog? Are we so vociferously inwardly focused that rote happiness is all we’re capable of?

When I talk about positive energy, ki or chi as I discussed in my last post, I don’t mean this rote kind of ‘happy’. I don’t mean reacting to life’s events with feigned happiness but, rather, trying to increase my potential for happiness and positive experience by increasing my chi, my life force and vitality.

And the more genuine positive energy you give out, the more genuine vitality you will get back.

Now that makes sense; have a happy day!

Positively successful

September 10, 2012

… and be successful

Positive thinking is based on the belief that we will get what we want and by taking action we’re in the process of fulfilling our dreams, destiny, goals or success. The words are interchangeable but the destination is the same.

We’ve all heard of the term ‘self-fulfilling prophecy’; it means believing that results will come to us when we fashion our lives according to our personal beliefs. This comes with a warning; our results positive or negative depending on what we think.

To quote James Allen: Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so you shall become. Your vision is the promise of what you shall one day be; your ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil.

We can make something positive happen today when we’re prepared to open the door to the opportunities that will make us happy and lead us to fulfillment and success.

Prosperity consciousness

September 3, 2012

Unlock your limitations

When it comes to the prosperity, or lack of it, what you create is determined by your vision and the strength of your beliefs. Now that doesn’t mean idle dreams or empty wishes, but your actual vision.  It may be monetary, spiritual, physical, emotional, a sense of achievement or fulfilment.   It may be your career, sport, hobby, family or relationships. It may be big or small. It will usually be a combination and it will be unique to you.

Here’s the problem. It’s easy to be caught in the flow of life and fail to understand that we win, lose or remain where we are as a consequence of our thoughts and actions.

It’s easy to believe that ‘going with the flow’ will lead to happiness and success. That rarely happens. The flow has enough form to provide a comfortable and satisfying life; this is the structure of society that provides a safety net for those in need. We can be subdued by the warm waters and float along happily passing the time.

For some this is enough.  But many yearn for more and feel the emptiness of a nice but not exceptional life. They want more and look to society to provide it. This isn’t unexpected; we’ve been brought up to live by the majority’s rules. And when we want more this can be viewed with scorn by others who want us to be just like them, floating along, not creating any waves.

Most will say they want more but aren’t prepared to do anything about it. Strength of mind, a challenging goal, taking action and the possibility of failure are not risks some are prepared to take. So they stay in their comfort zone, and be happy when others do the same.

They will speak of luck, fortune and chance.  They will blame their history, opportunities, society, destiny or fate; anything other than taking responsibility for themselves. They will be swallowed up by the ‘system’, plodding through their daily existence, looking for someone to tell them what to do and what to think next.

To them it’s comforting to think that wealth, success, and happiness are the result of luck.  Because even though they don’t have these things and don’t expect they ever will, they take solace in the belief they never had a chance.  They‘re jealous of the lucky ones and absolve themselves of any responsibility for their own lives of quiet desperation.

By contrast, some ‘lucky’ few will break away with the determination to take the path less travelled and chase their success.

The path you choose, your action, results and consequences are up to you. What are you prepared to risk for success?

Positively successful

August 7, 2012

Glass half full or half empty?

We create success or failure according to our most prominent thoughts. When thinking about ourselves, our lives and future prospects, which is stronger – success or failure, positive or negative, optimism or pessimism?

Everybody runs the spectrum of positive and negative thoughts. With everything that goes on in our lives and the myriad of external influences over which we have limited or no control, it would seem impossible to maintain a permanent state of happiness and positiveness. We enjoy moments of euphoric joy and excitement and moments of depression and disappointment.

Taking away the extremes, it’s possible to determine whether a person is generally positive or negative in their thoughts, behaviour and composure. Some see the bad side to everything, refuse to try because they will most certainly fail and struggle through each day with the weight of the world on their shoulders.

Others have a positive outlook on life and face the world with enthusiasm and excitement. Each day is an adventure with the probability of moving towards their goal, achieving something significant and learning from their experiences.

If your mind is usually in a negative state, the occasional positive thought isn’t sufficient to attract success. Negativity and scepticism can be a habit that’s hard to break. It appears to be socially unacceptable to many to admit happiness or enjoyment of work and life.

How are you? Not bad (a double negative), alright for a Tuesday I guess, fair to middling, could be better, will be better next week, not real well … and many other similar negative sentiments. Misery enjoys company and if you’re not careful will drag you down into a mire of negativity that kills motivation, creativity and achievement.

This results in feeling sorry for yourself or blaming the world or others for everything that has ever gone wrong in your life. This leaves an undertone of helplessness and hopelessness that precludes taking responsibility for yourself and what happens to you. You become a victim at the whim of circumstance and taken advantage of by others.

We all know people that appear to attract such negative results that just about everything seems to go wrong. They embrace failure with enthusiasm and find great solace in telling others about it and having them feel sorry for them. A self-perpetuating cycle of negativity; the glass isn’t just half empty, it’s smashed on the floor.

Others appear to be ‘blessed’ and everything they touch turns to gold. They’re happy and positive and seek the best from life and usually get it. When things go wrong they see this as a setback, not a failure; there’s a positive correlation between attitude and success.

Taking responsibility for ourselves, our actions, attitudes and results is one of the fundamental keys to success. If it’s to be, it’s up to me.

Breaking habits and not being afraid to fail will lead to success

August 1, 2012

Will you jump out of your comfort zone?

Everyone’s life is different, with an infinite number of factors contributing to success or failure. And there are patterns in the ways in which we habitually interact with our experiences. Over time, those patterns define our results.

Habits are hard to change.  Many of us talk about the need to change; change our life, change our attitude, change our results, change our approach. The basis of the self-help movement is providing strategies for change. Often this involves a decision about taking another path, usually out of our comfort zone, for the first time.

Our comfort zone provides the protection of the familiar and the easy. We become complacent and blinkered to opportunities that are presented to us. Even when we do make the break, it’s easy to snap back unless we work hard to make a permanent change.

Sometimes it isn’t about black or white, success or failure. The next time you want to explore an opportunity ask ‘am I prepared to try’.

This approach to life is to take a risk, learn from it, and apply the new knowledge and understanding to the next stage of the journey. Develop your skills along the path and keep going until you’re successful.  Failure is an essential part of this strategy.

Taking calculated risks are the essence of achievement. You have to fear failure enough to work hard to make the risk pan out successfully, but not so much that you don’t risk in the first place. Viewed through the lens of learning, failure is at least as beneficial as success. Working only on things you’re pretty sure will work significantly limits what you can achieve. Instead, take risks. And then see what happens.

Applying the laws of success

July 9, 2012

 

Where will you find your yellow jersey?

 

In our last few posts we discussed how, through action and clarity of thought, we’re able to channel universal energy to create our goals and desires into reality. When we accept that we do this every day in the normal process of our lives, it’s not such a big leap to believe we can also achieve the same results for those things we currently feel are out of our grasp.

In this series of posts I will break down the laws of success to their most basic and easy to understand components. This will demystify the process and show you how to apply the laws of success to your life. These principles are not new and have been proven time and again. Many people are just not prepared to believe that it’s possible or take the necessary action.

At seminars and in books we’re told to ‘dream big’ and ‘go for it’. That’s good advice but it misses one key element: belief. If you don’t believe you can achieve something then you’re prone to give up or only provide a mediocre level of effort. More often than not you will fail, which in turn reinforces your belief that ‘I can’t do it’ or ‘It’s too hard’ or, worse, ‘I’m not worthy or good enough’.

I’ve written many times about the requirement for taking action and demonstrating persistence toward a challenging but achievable goal. The laws of success aren’t magic, so we can’t ‘manifest our desires’ out of thin air without taking action to achieve them. So many people are disappointed when success doesn’t immediately come their way.

Let’s look at this in another way with an example that many of us can relate to.

If you want to lose weight and get healthy you have to exercise, and watch your diet. If you say ‘I wish I could lose weight’ and continue to do the same things then you’ll get the same result. The basic equation for weight loss is energy in, energy out. If you eat healthy foods, and exercise to burn more calories than you consume, you will lose weight. It’s a simple formula but, as many of us know, often difficult to achieve. There are many distractions, excuses and roadblocks that get in the way.

Sometimes we may not do everything we should. We sleep in that extra 30 minutes and miss our morning walk, or can’t resist that slice of cake when having coffee with friends. There’s a trade-off here between short-term satisfaction and a longer term benefit, and keeping focused on the big picture can be difficult. That doesn’t mean we’ve failed. We may be annoyed at ourselves, but those that are ultimately successful overcome these setbacks and keep going.

Achieving success is exactly the same. You create an idea in your mind (energy in) and take action (energy out) to manifest (create) your desires (goal) in the physical world (result).

For both weight loss and success there are a couple of important points. You must set a goal that’s reasonable and you believe you can achieve. Second, it takes determination and hard work; if you don’t take action you can’t possibly expect to get results. Third, it takes time; you can’t decide to lose 10 kg and realistically hope to do so by the end of the week. Finally, you need to make your new actions a way of life, a permanent change for the better, or you will quickly find yourself back where you began.

Now you have it, the formula for success; no one said it would be easy. In our next posts I will help you to make this a reality.

Try before you buy – visualising your success

June 25, 2012

Can you experience your dreams?

 

I have spoken about creative visualisation in previous posts but have now found a great and fun way to take this up a notch. And that’s to try before you buy.

Depending on your goals this approach may not always be possible but, for many of us, experiencing what we want can be a great way to build the energy required to get there. If your goal is a new BMW then see if you can take one for a test drive or hire one for a weekend. If you want a fabulous holiday house overlooking the ocean then rent one for a week and really live the experience. How does it make you feel?

Sometimes role-playing can make it all feel real. I was fortunate to be invited to speak at a conference at a beautiful resort on Hamilton Island on Queensland’s Great Barrier Reefrecently. And my hosts were kind enough to offer me an additional day to spend in this $1000-a-night resort.

It was fantastic: I sailed in the morning, lay around the pool sipping fresh juice, had a delicious lunch on the balcony of my villa and enjoyed an hour long massage. I was totally relaxed and spent the rest of the day doing something I love: writing.

To me this was a perfect day. I did what I wanted, when I wanted, enjoyed a beautiful luxury experience and then had the bonus of doing what I love while feeling totally relaxed and inspired. Quite a different story to the normal busyness and clock watching that often defines my days.

I was fortunate enough to be in a position to do all of this, and it represented a level of success in what I wish to achieve in my life. It was a wonderful experience and I consumed every part of it. This is what I’d love to do, all the time, to have these choices and to be able to book in anytime I please without worrying about time or cost.

I lived the day pretending or  ‘visualising’ myself as a successful professional writer, able to make these choices without concern or worry about how I could afford to pay  or what was going on back in the ‘real world’.

Now I’ve experienced a slice of it, my vision and passion to achieve this lifestyle is stronger. I can now feel, smell, taste, remember and enjoy it, and so the picture of my ideal life has sharpened and my clarity has risen. Right now I’m thankful for the opportunity, and my subconscious is finding a way to make this happen all the time – to have the entire cake.

When was the last time you had a perfect day? And what are you doing to give yourself the chance to have one?

 

Causes of procrastination

May 31, 2012

Sometimes it’s difficult to start large tasks

Think of all the times you have found excuses, justified something or were able to blame other people or circumstances for your inactivity. Unfortunately the required or desired tasks rarely go away and this just makes the situation worse. The last person we blame is usually ourselves. Do you want to be good at making excuses or good at getting results?

If we recognise the causes of procrastination then we have the opportunity to do something about it. Over the next two posts I will list the top ten reasons that I believe perpetuate inaction. The first five focus on the issues that may involve external influences and the second are more internal.  See if any of the following ring true with you.

Priorities. People who cannot sort out tasks and assign priorities to them often jump from task to task with little or no understanding of where they wish to end up. These people find it difficult to know what’s important, so they have a go at everything and end up with too much to do, and then continue to put it off.

Risk. People who are afraid to take risks procrastinate to protect themselves from the consequences of their actions. The risk of failing and destroying their dream, the risk of success which may force other changes in their lives or the risk of having to perform, such as getting a promotion and then not knowing what to do. Much of this is about staying in the comfort zone.

Dependence. Some people are unwilling to do things for themselves and don’t wish to be in a position where they’re responsible for their actions or results. These people depend on others to tell them, show them or help them with what is required in life. They will postpone significant tasks until there is someone to help them or do it for them. And of course if they fail they always have someone else to blame.

Responsibility. Some people will do just about anything to avoid responsibility. They will procrastinate and rationalise the delays by blaming others or making statements such as ‘this isn’t my responsibility’ or ‘this isn’t part of my job’. They have to be accountable for their actions and don’t want to expose themselves to the consequences of being wrong. So they do nothing.

Peer pressure. People who fear the opinion of others often procrastinate in order to avoid criticism or even approval. This often happens when the person wants to step outside the norm and create something different for themselves. The jealousies and inadequacies of others often push you to stick to the same path as everyone else. Everyone is safe in the middle of the herd.

Are you a procrastinator?

May 14, 2012

Think big, start small

Do you procrastinate?

Don’t worry, it’s not like admitting some dirty little secret – but it is recognising the reality and demands of modern life.

Most of us procrastinate from time to time but we don’t want to make it a habit; we want to be more effective and find it frustrating when we’re not.  Often the reasons for our procrastination are pushed into the background mayhem, leaving us feeling less than fulfilled.

Admitting that you procrastinate is the first step to being more productive, and you could end up making some significant positive changes in your life. Procrastination isn’t laziness, although if you’re lazy this certainly won’t help, and it doesn’t mean doing something the second you think of it. We all have to prioritise and it makes sense to let an idea develop before launching headlong into a new project.

We all know people who get so excited about their latest idea that they drop everything and jump right in. These people tend to have several projects ‘on the go’ and rarely finish anything before chasing the next big thing (their next sure fire plan to instant success and fortune). They get an ‘A+’ for excitement and enthusiasm but an ‘F’ for follow-through.

Yet they also jump to the next thing while procrastinating on the first thing they started. Or sometimes the idea is there but the action isn’t. The four Ps – Preparation, purpose, planning and persistence – will beat procrastination.

We need to find a middle ground, where ideas, effort and execution come together in a meaningful way. There’s a great prize for those that find it. The hardest part is starting, and by reading this post you have started!  In the next post we’ll look why we procrastinate at all.